The Higa family spent Memorial Day doing what we do best: looking for deals. Lynnette was born with a bloodhound’s sense of smell for retail sales; her nose for savings led us to Ala Moana yesterday. There were, to be sure, several purchases made by our family, but I am most happy to report that we’ve made it another year without Madison giving a crap about shopping. Lynnette and I have done such a good job raising Madison that she actually turns down opportunities to purchase things. For example, we’ll ask if she wants a dress. She’ll look at it and make a call immediately. There’s no Lynnette-esque wishy-washy, I-want-to-get-it-but-maybe-I-shouldn’t, red wire or blue wire hesitation thus far in Madison, and that makes me happy. She even asks “Is this ‘spensive?” if what she’s eyeing looks pricey.
Aside: We made yet another trip to Eden in Love yesterday. Lynnette spent close to half-an-hour scouring, trying on, and making decisions. When she got to the register with her purchases I asked her “Are you getting a skinny belt?” “No,” she replied. “You may as well get a skinny belt now because otherwise you won’t be able to recreate the look when we get home and you won’t wear the dress,” I said. The cashier looked at me and smiled, then looked at Lynnette. “Okay!” Lynnette said. It’s not mind-reading so much as it’s collecting years’ worth of data, looking for trends, and then making the best call based on all the available information. Marriage: so sexy.
I never understood why Jungle Fun set up that table with random automated toys out in front of the store. I still don’t, but I guess it might have something to do with the fact that my daughter must stop by it every time we come within a 50-foot radius of the store. Yesterday, there were four fake barking, walking dogs. As you know, Madison has a thing for fake dogs. In our home alone, Abby has to compete with Ruffy (a pull toy), Roxy (the fake puppy formerly known as Delection), and an electronic puppy on her toy computer for Madison’s affections. At Jungle Fun yesterday, I arranged all of the puppies in a line and then released them to create something of a race. Well, the picture you see is the result of that “race.” The Taco Bell dog left the others in the dirt and that husky-ish puppy never really competed. Of course that’s the one Madison was drawn too. “Awwwwwwww, it’s okay, puppy,” she said as moved it up to the rest of the pack.
Speaking of toys, it was a bittersweet moment indeed to learn that the Lego Store carries officially licensed Marvel and DC lego sets. A few weeks ago one of my students told me that Lego would soon be releasing a few Lord of the Rings sets. As cool as that is, it’s nowhere near as awesome as the comic book sets. I might be biased.
The Batman sets include the Bat Cave (far left) with a little contraption that allows you to slide Bruce Wayne in and Batman out – and vice versa (!). Of course, there is also a Batmobile/Bank robbery set (right) and a helicopter/Batjet (or whatever it’s called) chase set.
My ambivalence, of course, is founded on knowing that I am far too old and have far too many other financial obligations to spend near $200 to complete a Batman Lego set, but wanting so desperately to buy it, build it, scream at Madison not to touch it, then forget about it as it gathers dust in some quiet corner of my house.
To quote the narrator at the beginning of Armageddon: It has happened before. It will happen again.
I think the shopping highlight of the day came courtesy of Gilly Hicks. I’m not sure whether this is true or not, but sometimes I get the feeling that Lynnette is an underwear snob. Back in the day – long before we were married – Lynnette had not planned on staying over at my parents’ house and as such, did not pack an extra set of clothing. She already had some clothes at my house, but did not have any underthings. “Let’s just go to Walmart and get like a 9-pack or something and you can just leave them at my house for occasions just like this,” I said. “I’m not going to wear Walmart underwear!” she said defiantly. Well, we ended up going anyway – because Pearl City is closer than Mililani – and she hated every second of the search, purchase, and eventual use of Hanes panties. She’s a Victoria’s Secret girl. Perhaps it goes back to her days in college when she worked at VS. I don’t know. When we saw that Gilly Hicks had a seven-for-$26 deal on underwear, I suggested Lynnette poke her head in and check it out. Well, she did. Madison and I set up shop on the patio area fronting the store. Fifteen or so minutes later, Lynnette emerged from the store with a little bag and said “I have to admit that they’ve got some pretty good sales,” as if the idea of any store other than VS having serviceable underwear was such a stretch. Madison and I got up and I took the bag from Lynnette (because I’m not that guy who makes his partner carry all the shopping bags, even if they’re all hers) and said “So did-” Lynnette cut me off. “No, I didn’t get any thongs. I don’t wear those anymore. I’m a mother now.” Parenthood: so sexy.
Aside: Madison has a very sensitive nose, apparently. There are certain stores – such as Gilly Hicks and Abercrombie and Fitch and Basique Threads – that some kind of smell that turns her off. Yesterday we got about half-way into Gilly Hicks before the smell of their perfume or whatever hit Madison’s nose. She immediately pressed her nostrils down with her fingers and said (with a Muppet voice) “I don’t like the smell, dad. I wanna get out of here.” Whenever she does this, I say “What?” then she’ll say it again. Then I’ll say “I can’t understand you because you’re holding your nose.” Then she releases her nostrils and screams “I don’t like the smell! I wanna get out!” Before quickly clamping them shut again. It is hilarious every time.
“I’m going to be brave,” Madison said. She was talking about sleeping over at my parents’ house last night. Friday was Mad’s last day of school, and any other year, that would have been fine. But this school year, the underclass finals are after graduation. That means I have work this week. I’ve worked it out so that I don’t have to come in on Thursday, but I’ve had to make arrangements for Madison on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Friday.
We broke the news to Madison on Sunday night. She was hesitant. “Why do I have to sleep at grandma and grandpa’s?” she asked. “Because mommy and daddy still have work,” I said. “I don’t want to,” she said. “Well, Abby can’t watch you,” I said. “Is there anything you want me to pack for you?” I asked. “Well, some pajamas. And some snacks. And some other clothes,” she said. “So you can go out?” I asked. “Yes,” she said.
When we dropped Mad off at my parents’ house on the way home, it went off without incident. She hugged and kissed both of us goodbye and disappeared into the living room. “Are you two going to dinner now?” my mom asked. Lynnette and I looked at each other with matching looks of surprise. I have no idea how the hell neither of us thought of that. So that’s what we decided to do. We ate at Kunio. We had a nice conversation about missing Madison (we always do this, I suppose it somehow assuages our guilt) and a few other things. Mostly, though, we just inhaled food.
When we got home, Lynnette began reading Fifty Shades of Grey (which apparently features a bunch of kinky sex and whatnot) and that was that. I watched some Criminal Minds on TV. Every so often, I would say something, ask Lynnette a question, etc. and Lynnette would come out of her book shouting something like “What? I’m trying to read!” I smiled. You see, whenever I am reading, she bugs the shit out of me. Like my reading isn’t important and I could simply bookmark my page, do some menial task, then get right back to reading it. If you’re a reader, you know this is not true.
So when she put the book down to brush her teeth and turned off the light in the bedroom, she dove back into bed and said “Can you turn your lamp on?” Our room was shrouded in darkness. I lifted my left hand and began to move slowly. Like glacier-slow. “Can you turn your light on?” she asked again. I continued to move slowly. “What are you doing?!” she shouted. “I’m trying to read!” I started laughing. “It’s suuuuuuuuuuper shitty when you’re reading and people bother you, yeah?” I said. She started laughing. “Yes!” she said. “I will never bother you again!” Win. I turned the light on. Then I sat up and started playing with my phone. A few second later, she started making grunting noises. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “You’re in my light,” she said. “Let’s switch sides!” she shouted. I acquiesced. She plowed through the first 100 pages of the novel.
“He just showed her his play room,” she said, closing the book for the night. “What, with like whips and chains and swings and stuff?” I asked. “Yeah, and handcuffs,” she added. “Did let the gimp out?” I asked. “No, I don’t think he likes the gimp,” she said. “But he has everything else!” Good. God. “I like this Christian Grey,” she said. “Oh, no,” I said. “What?” she asked. “Now we need to get a life-sized cardboard cutout of Christian Grey to put in the garage next to Edward Cullen,” I said. She just laughed. I assume she will spend part of her morning on Googling whether such a thing exists.